Okay, so you did some deep evaluation, watched several videos, maybe even saw a therapist and it all led to one conclusion. You’re brain said “I’m a man” but you’re body said “haha bet.” You’re transgender buddy. Welcome to the club. And by club I mean a bunch of men with phantom penis, envying the mannequins in the men’s section at Dillards.
So you’re in the closet, can’t get a haircut just yet, but your wardrobe can afford a change,,, well that’s absolutely stellar.
Alright so you know that stereotypical image of a young transguy? Beanie, flannel or hoodie of some short, maybe even skinny jeans or piercings?
Yeah, we’re gonna try to avoid that later. However, being pre transition, this may be your best bet. You aren’t out, therefore, an androgynous look may be your best bet. But avoid piercings, unless, you REALLY want them. If you can go without them, go without them.
Now this may be an easy look to go with, I would suggest another look. You might have to play around some, but a surfer look. Back when I was a wee child, aka, 11, I would wear this Magellan’s fishing shirt from Academy Sports, that completely obliterated my curves, and on top of that, the material is not all soft and fleece-like, like most women’s clothing. I wore this, and loose pants, key word, l o o s e. No skinny jeans, those boys will highlight the heck outta your curvy not man legs. Now, I’m not saying wear saggy ass jeans, but maybe get a looser fitting bootcut instead. An even better idea, is shorts. Any shorts will do but cargo shorts are amazing. Make sure your shorts meet your knee, women tend to have knees that go in, and men tend to have knees that go out, by covering half your knee, you will eliminate a small detail that tends to make legs look womanly. To finish the look, put a shark tooth or arrow head necklace. I know “But Michael! Wouldn’t I want to avoid necklaces?” and while yes, you do, a leather stringed sharp object hanging on your neck isn’t exactly going to scream “woman” but instead “surf and turf boyz.” Brush your hair and make it look a bit frizzy, when its frizzy, yes you may look ever so slightly trashy, you will look more like a man with long hair.
If this fails, then just slap on a DARK colored sweater and roll up the sleeves. Shit does wonders for broadening shoulders. Layer up bud.
Now onto the smaller things. For underwear, I would say to try to find something with a thicker waistband. I found a pack of 3 for like 6.99 at Ross back in those days and I would wear them all the time. The waistband made me feel more manly and as if someone were to see it, they would be more convinced I was a man as opposed to if I were wearing something with a lace or small band.
Try to avoid crazy socks and no shows. Guys tend to wear crew or quarter socks of either grey, black, or white. Now some will wear crazy socks and if they make you happy then honestly go at it, I will admit, I love crazy socks.
Same thing goes for shoes. Try to buy strictly black, grey, or white shoes.
Now, binding pre-transition is honestly easy. Just buy some compression sports bras. I imagine you could find them anywhere they sell bras. No one will think too much on it, it’s a bra, and some girls like to wear only sports bras so you wont really stick out too much.
Also I know many girls who buy boxers to sleep in so if you can, go for that. Also, basketball shorts for sleep is a good idea.
Alright, so I’m pretty sure that’s all I have for you pre transition lads.
…but not completely.
You wanna cut your hair, right? Well, if you live with your parents, here’s a tip. I never brushed my hair and it got so bad to the point that my mom begged me to cut it. But that took like 3 years of mismanaging. So here’s a better idea…
burn it off.
Okay let me elaborate. Decide to “straighten” or “curl” (depending on your hair type) your hair one day, but fuck it up. And I mean, fuck. it. up. You’ve seen those girls burn off their hair on youtube, just join the club. Don’t burn it too close to your roots though, that’s really bad, I’d say, burn it off around your jaw. Also, make sure to actually treat your hair after your burn it off to repair it a bit, you want short hair not ugly hair.
Hey, this isn’t a self care guide, this is a how to be a man guide, and unfortunately, your hair is gonna have to take one for the team and get damaged. But don’t worry, now you have an excuse to cut the rest off.
But what style should you get?
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